Rules of Attraction

altLike every human action or reaction, attraction towards something/someone is basically due to hormonal influences.

But that’s about the scientific part of it. When you fall for a woman, it has to be something peculiar about her that makes you want to to go weak in your knees. Once you have made sure that this is the woman you would like to know more about, the game begins. And like every game ever played, this has its own set of rules. Here goes:

Talk, don’t stalk

The first step is to know her. Remember how Ted has a checklist for T-H-E perfect woman? Chances are, you have your own little list too (or you probably don’t know about it yet). Take time to know a woman and talk your way into her good books.

Desperation never won a war

The key to not come across as a creep is, to not be (ok, act?) desperate. Once you get talking regularly and you begin to like her, try not to choke her all the time with your questions. Everyone has his or her personal life and space and you should not try to invade that territory. Also, being paranoid because she hasn’t texted/called back in is not getting you anywhere.

Take it easy

‘Love at first sight’ is over rated; because you can’t fall for a person you don’t know. Also, it’s a time taking process if you aren’t the ones who click instantly. Remember, good things in life come to those who are willing to wait. Like whiskey, relationships also get better with age.

Don’t push things; let them happen

Ok let me rephrase this: be subtle. Don’t keep pushing her to do something she isn’t ready for. Remember your best buddy from childhood and how you two met for the first time? Neither of you had the slightest idea you would be pals. Ditto for this. Don’t rush things or jump to conclusions straightaway. Let things take their own course of action.

Give her time to know you

the best way to let her decide is to give her time to know you and the best way to do so is being yourself. She has guy friends, brothers and, maybe, exes so she knows about guys. You need to show her why you are better. Given the current sex ratio in India, she is obviously spoilt for choices. You aren’t; so you need to be good at it.

Don’t comment on her friends

Don’t ever answer when she asks you about her friends. Even when it’s something good, it is going to backfire. Her friend cannot be bad because she’s, well, her friend and she can’t be good because then you have been ogling at her too much. See, where this is going?

Your success or failure in attracting her is all in the mind. Engage the mind and you will win the battle. A woman’s mind is no less than a battlefield. You don’t have to worry much about it since she will tell you about it through her slight hints. She will mention something, some incident and relate it to something you did/ wanted to do/ thought of doing. That means she was thinking about you.

These are not hard and fast rules but should be fairly helpful if your favorite movie isn’t 'Darr' or 'Devdas', in which case I suggest you see a psychiatrist immediately. Rest assured, these should see you through in attracting the woman of your dreams. (Dating, MensXP.com)

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