Stupid question, really. Work is one aspect of your life. Dating is another.
Most people look at these two as the two sides of a coin, as mutually exclusive, and that’s the way it should be. Think of the last time you called in sick at work just so that you could go pick up a friend from the airport. Now, if you were dating your boss and she was at all good at her work, she might resent your absence from work, don’t you think?
Don’t believe me? Well, then, let me spell it out for you. You shouldn’t date your boss because:
1. Women bosses let the power get to their heads
Listen, take it from a woman–often, women make unreasonable, demanding, manipulative bosses. A woman is all nice and normal while her designation says ‘employee’. Promote her to manager and she becomes a super bi**h. After all, if she doesn’t lord it over the hoi polloi now, when next will she get the chance? Yes, she might take to you, she might even come on extra strong, but that’s only because she knows that she has the upper hand. Unless you like being the toy boy and metaphorically tied to the bedposts, don’t date a woman boss.
2. Women, at the best of times, are moody creatures
Do you really want to be at her mercy if something goes wrong? Yes, all the things they say about a woman scorned are true–she will go in for the kill, and remember that here, it’s your employment that’s at stake. How do you know that she won’t take offence to your ogling at Nargis Fakhri and take it out on you at work? Your peace of mind is not worth a few lousy dates, unless jobs like yours come a dime a dozen, in which case this article aint for you, buddy.
3. It’s difficult to separate personal performance from operational performance
At board meetings. And between the sheets. Sc**w up in one place and you get punished in the other. They say leave your work life behind you when you leave your desk. Date your boss and you will be at work all evening too. Forget her birthday and you might have to bid goodbye to a raise at the next appraisal.
4. A woman who has the upper hand seldom respects you
If she earns more than you do, is smarter than you are, and commands more respect, do you really think she’s going to be dating you for the person you are? Trust me, she’s involved for far more carnal reasons. Which might suit you fine, and parallel your own reasons, until she brandishes out the whip, that is. Real or metaphorical.
Work and play are two aspects that stand apart for a reason. Too much of anything is bad for you. And dating a woman above you is taking too big a risk.
If you’re still not convinced, count the number of times you’ve shown up at work nursing a hangover, or been too hung-over to show up. Date her and she will be able to read you even better than she does now. Not worth it, buddy.
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